At 61, Mdm Tan Poh Suan knows what it means to care for a senior. For years, she looked after her late mother, juggling the many responsibilities that come with caregiving. But in 2022, the tables turned. Mdm Tan was diagnosed with cancer. After a surgery, she was discharged home, only to find herself overwhelmed and alone. “The stress was tremendous,” she recalls, her voice catching. That was when a social worker referred her to Lions Befrienders.
Under the Home Personal Care programme, Healthcare Assistant Candice Buendia, 37, began visiting her once a week. She helps with housework, making sure Mdm Tan’s flat stays clean and safe, which is especially important on days when treatment leaves her exhausted.
“I appreciate everything she does for the house,” says Mdm Tan.
“These are things that I took for granted that I could do, but the moment that I couldn’t do it, having that help is like having an angel sent to you.” Beyond the practical tasks, it’s Candice’s attentiveness that leaves the deepest impression. She checks in when Mdm Tan doesn’t respond, arranges for extra supplies when needed, and even makes sure that Mdm Tan’s favourite marker pen is capped.
“Candice goes the extra mile, which I really appreciate. It really shows me what kind of person she is. She listens with a heart to help,” Mdm Tan says. “She’s my hands, my legs, my eyes.”
Their relationship has grown over time, shaped by conversations and small moments of care. “She becomes like part of my family,” Mdm Tan smiles. Candice, living in Singapore away from her own family, echoes the sentiment: “She’s like a mother to me. She’s inspiring, because even when she’s going through a lot herself, she still finds the strength to care for others. She gives me advice and encourages me to keep going, even when I’m tired.”
Unearthing a framed certificate, Mdm Tan shares that she was honoured with the SingHealth Inspirational Patient Award in 2024. Despite her illness, she continues to support fellow cancer patients by distributing meals and offering a listening ear. She says it’s only possible because of the steady care she receives from Candice and Lions Befrienders. Mdm Tan makes sure to reciprocate this support with warmth and generosity. She gives out handmade thank you cards to the Lions Befrienders who have journeyed with her, remembering their names and writing letters of encouragement. Candice remembers one moment in particular — a day when she was rushing between appointments and hadn’t had time for lunch.
Without hesitation, Mdm Tan set out a meal for her. “One of the most rewarding things about this work is when we receive encouragement from the seniors that we serve,” Candice says.